Personal Growth and Relationships: Navigating Young Adulthood

Ambitious young men should focus on personal growth before seeking long-term relationships.

### The Importance of Personal Development Before Seeking Relationships
* 💪 At 24, the focus should be on **personal growth and self-improvement** rather than seeking a long-term partner, as **significant growth occurs between the ages of 24 and 30**.
* 📈 Investing time in fitness, career, and personal finances is crucial, as the **experiences and maturity gained during this period** will shape future relationship choices.
* 🧠 Many young men may feel confident and ready for relationships, but true **self-awareness and understanding of personal desires** often develop later in life.
* 💔 Marrying too early can lead to **missed opportunities for personal achievement and growth**, which can hinder both partners' **success in the long run**.
* 🌱 Building a strong foundation based on **internal values**, such as **honesty and reliability**, is more beneficial for lasting relationships than external factors like **wealth**.
* 📊 Reflecting on personal development, many young men may overestimate their maturity at a young age, only to realize later that **true self-discovery takes time and experience**.
* 💑 While some argue for the value of growing together in a relationship, it is essential to ensure that both partners are at a **similar level of maturity and readiness for commitment**.
* 🔄 The current dating landscape offers **more options and comparisons** than previous generations, making it vital for young men to **develop themselves** before entering serious relationships.

If I were 24, I would not even be looking for a long-time partner until I was at least 28, and I feel like 28 is pretty young. I would do nothing but get jacked, get your money up. You're already [ __ ] handsome. Stop, man, bro [ __ ]. You're [ __ ]. You can't even fight. I'll slap the [ __ ] out of you right now, slap the [ __ ] out of you, but just to take this outside, okay, no problem, follow down the. But the point I'm making is if I were you, I would put my head down and get so deeply ingrained in fitness, go box, business, everything that y'all are doing, and build your money and build yourself as a man. Because I'm telling you what's going to happen, and it's probably already happening to you because you're good-looking and [ __ ], and you're doing things. Women are just going to jump in front of you, so I truly believe women.

bet on horses. They look down at the field and they're like, Which one of these guys are going to win? and some girls, and oftentimes good girls, especially because you're work, work, work, work, work. They're just going to jump in front of you, and you're just going to run them over, and you might end up having a... I had a girlfriend for like five or six years in my 20s. She's a bit crazy, and I told her that I was going to have other girlfriends, and she acted like I didn't say it, so I did it, and she'd get mad, and just back and forth. But you know, I was around her a lot, and um, if I were you, man, I truly mean this. I wouldn't even be looking for a wife right now. There's so much you have to do, yeah, and those guys that get married early, they never achieve what they should have achieved, and it doesn't work because he never becomes a man. He could have... Well, I'll say from my own

experience. I didn't truly come into myself until I was probably 28. Yeah, really. I was told so much. I was told when I was 18. I started working in real estate, and I was told people are not really going to take you seriously until you're 25. And like 25 is when it starts to happen because it starts to level out in terms of your maturity, like a mental thing about that age too. Yeah, I think it was just relating to other people in such a way that you couldn't do before the age of 25 because you haven't had the experience. But even me at 25, like I was insecure. I would overthink everything. I wasn't sure of myself. You didn't have enough experience with women. No, I didn't. And you're going to need a lot of experience with women. You're going to need to see how they act. You know, you're going to need to go through relationships, sleep with some. I mean, I'm not saying you're not doing that, but you know, like experience.

the different parts of the relationships with the girls. I just wouldn't want to see you get your heart in. And I'll tell you another thing, a guy like you particularly. I'm not trying to be your mentor right now, but I'm just using you for an example. A guy like you that's ambitious, that's going to do a lot of good stuff. You might settle for a girl based off the man you are today when you're going way up here. And then that's going to create a whole another problem for you because the girl you can really get at your maturity, let's say between 33 and 35, is probably going to be substantially better material, probably more beautiful, probably a lot of things better than what you can get today. And I just believe that to be true. And do you believe though that there's value in having someone come up with you and building that shared thing? Not necessarily together. I think that's a bit more of a pipe dream. My parents met in high school. My dad was a senior, my mom I think was

like a junior or something in the 70s or the 80s, bro. 80s, yeah. All right, hey, I don't really have any rebuttal to that. That's, can I have this water? Yeah, go for it. Thanks, bro. I don't drink water, it's just coffee. He's insane, horrible ins. He doesn't drink water. I kid you not, he drinks no water. I do in a protein shake, okay? Just a protein shake, Optimum Nutrition. I how he survives, that's wild, bro. Coffee is water. Here's the thing about your parents, man, in the 80s. Your dad might see one woman every now and then in a Walmart parking lot, that's beautiful. He can live in the same town with her for the next 20 years and might not see her again, right? But now it's over, it's over, bro. And on a daily basis, you're going to be getting compared to other men. So, a couple of comments about this whole conversation. I do think that there is some merit in growing up with this.

person because you don't necessarily want somebody to like you just based off of external factors, such as how much money you have, right? I think that's such a small component in terms of money because there's always going to be someone else with more money, always money. I think more internal values, such as, are you an honest person, right? Are you punctual? Can you rely on this person? Stuff like that are better and stronger foundations to build successful relationships off of rather than other things that sure could be indicators of those traits, but such as wealth, such as, I don't know, maybe like fancy shoes and stuff like that, you know? On a scale of one to 100, what percentage based off of where you believe you're going to land as a man do you feel like you're already developed? I mean, that's funny 'cause when I was like 19, I thought I was at like 70, and I was just thinking about this a couple weeks, just like a [__] 19-year-old do.

you think now uh I hope low uh I hope I'm at 30 uh maybe 20 but realistically I would say I'm at maybe 40 and there's a bunch of things that you don't know that you don't know yet myself included I think it's best for a man to try to develop and really get a grip on his life who he is what he wants because all I want for anybody that either watches my content or that's my kid or for somebody I love or a friend is for them to have choice you know and there's a lot of developing to do before you can even get to a place where you actually know what you want in the first place and what that looks like for you you're going to change a lot in the next five years I agree astronomically and what might look good to you today day might look horrible in 5 years and so if you were married it could it it doesn't really set you up for success and I think that's why the the failure rate is so

high now. If you were 35 and she was 25, then maybe you know you're in the ballpark, but I wouldn't do it until I was in my 30s for sure. Well, I think some of it is coming into who you are. Knowing who you are itself, I think, makes you attractive to more people so that you have more options to pick from, and then it's not coming from a place of scarcity. It's really like, you know, I want to be with you not because you're the only option, but because we get along together. But people can also fall for that at 19 when he thought he was 100% there and his chest was poked out. He can talk like a very confident man who knows what he wants. He sounds decisive. He didn't know it all, and neither did I, and I can tell you right now I'm still developing as a person. I don't even know what percentage I am. I hope it's less than 70 for damire. Hope it's 60. I hope I have a lot

of growth left in me. Um, but you at 24, man, you're going to do so many things, and you're going to grow so much from 24 to 30. For me, huge deal. From 30 to 35, it's probably 10x that.

Justin Waller's Warning: DON'T GET MARRIED Before 30+

The Iced Coffee Hour Clips

The speaker reflects on their past relationships and advises against looking for a wife at a young age, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and achievement.

They share their experience of dating a "crazy" girlfriend and the complications that arose from it.

The speaker believes that an ambitious person may settle for a partner who doesn't match their future potential, suggesting that a better match may come later in life.

The speaker reflects on the differences between dating and social interactions in the 80s compared to today.

They comment on the rarity of seeing the same person multiple times in a small town.

The conversation highlights the pressure of constant comparison to other men in the present day.

The Importance of Internal Values in Relationships

Building successful relationships is more about internal values, such as honesty and reliability, rather than external factors like wealth.

The speaker reflects on their personal development, feeling most mature at 28, and acknowledges the importance of life experiences in relating to others.

They emphasize the need for experience with women to gain confidence and understanding in relationships.

The Importance of Self-Development and Choice

Self-awareness and personal development are crucial for understanding one's desires and making informed life choices.

People undergo significant changes in their 20s and 30s, making it challenging to commit to long-term relationships.

Knowing who you are can attract more options, reducing the feeling of scarcity in relationships.

At 24, there's significant personal growth ahead, especially from 24 to 30.

The speaker suggests focusing on fitness, building wealth, and personal development rather than seeking a long-term partner until at least 28.

They believe that with good looks and ambition, women will naturally be attracted and come into the person's life.