but now check this out, this is you right, and this is your idea, and what your dreams, let's say your dreams in your head, they're internal actually, and then here is the outside world, we'll call it feelings, right, we'll make it something gay like pink okay

this is the outside world, damn it, this is the outside world penetrating your mind, mind, I feel tired, I feel lustful, I feel gluttonous, I feel greedy, I feel right because you're on your phone scrolling now, these thoughts of let's go, part, shut the [ __ ] up, what is that

that's like okay, well no, these outside thoughts right, these feelings you have, feelings are reacting to these outside external like the mental plane right, let's say girls, okay, your dream is to pop off but your desire, right, your external desire is girls, right, something in the

real world is making you feel lonely, you're like consuming media that is telling you you're a [ __ ] loser, you're lonely, you're going to die alone, and so you think of girls and get distracted, or it could be

anything, and it's really about realizing this stuff is useless, this external stuff, don't react to it by drinking and doing stupid [ __ ], just go back to your dream, you know, you look at any successful person, they just keep going back to their dream, right, you add the

bricks, they're like brick layers, right, look at that, you add the bricks and you just go up, and then you stop because you want to talk to some [ __ ] [ __ ] hey yo [ __ ], no no no, you've done that already, that's

why you're depressed just keep adding bricks keep adding bricks keep adding bricks and then one day you slip up and you do go out with a [ __ ] and all you can think about is bricks as she's talking you're at the table and all you

can think about is bricks and brick laying and then you go well maybe if I Piper that this feeling is going to go away you pipe bang bang bang bang I nutted I'm I'm sorry babe and then you're like breaked up you finish that

and then you're just in bed and she's talking stupid [ __ ] and you're back to thinking of your dreams now you can go the road of staying with her but eventually she picks up on the fact that your dreams

are being substituted by her and she goes I actually want a guy who has dreams chat and Chad goes oh but I I put them on pause for you and she goes M yeah I don't want that I thought I did and the guy goes

oh and the saddest moment here is when you go back to laying bricks after this moment it doesn't feel good to lay bricks anymore when you're off that momentum because you've lost identity now that she's not a part of your life

right you've lost identity you're kind of confused and then you dream of the days where laying bricks was fun for you you dream about that and you go damn and then over some time over some you know working on yourself the bricks start to be fun again right and then your buddies

say hey let's go to the club and you get you get distracted again and again and again what you don't realize is when this brick laying process ends well what you have then is a um you have a castle and  **we** love castles so

you're going to have 30 of them to choose from they don't like the cold world they want to be in the castle they want to be with the king so now you have a bunch of them you understand sounds like you like that oh

man dude I remember 21 years old crying like this tear down my face but don't want I don't want anyone but my high school sweetheart this makes so much sense to me this the only girl this but really it's like what a **mess** what a **weird** life it

would have been if I stayed with her I doubt I'd be doing I out I would have had a dollar to my name [Music] really and now now it's kind of like living life on easy mode like do you guys realize let's say

I went bankrupt let's say someone's like hey give me 280 280,000 you're robbed You're bankrupt I just go live at Panda's house and go viral podcasting I just build it all again you know I've got places to

stay really I I'm like my life is kind of like I don't really have to do you know there's very few people who have those kind of like connects and stuff and the internet provided that for sure right as evil as the internet is when you take it take over it and make

it's your [ __ ] it's so nice it's like you've tamed a [ __ ] lion soon CH said no not everything is about money I don't think you understand how expensive this world is like it's going

to get bad for you if you have that mindset you know you're one tragedy away from a mental breakdown with that mindset right you need a castle and really you're not really put on Earth to work that hard you're not put on Earth to work 40

40 years of your life to be in a small apartment that's a you got cheated you understand you got cheated if you're working 40 years for a little apartment and a dog then you got cheated bad now if you're super happy with that life

then that's different right because the most successful people want happiness too you know a lot of people don't realize that you know you get smacked around in life but it's only a bad thing if you got smacked around in life for free if

you got smacked around in life but you learned then in a few years you're going to be like I'm glad that [ __ ] happened to me I'm glad I got stomped by life but if you're not learning then you got

smacked around for free no no that's do you and and it's weird if you're an atheist you really think you're suffering is just there's nothing to it oh it's just it's just suffering but if you believe in God you

go oh all the suffering is lessons and then these lessons guard my family better my kids better blah blah blah I understand like you want your kid to come up to you and ask for advice and you give them the good [ __ ] cuz if you

if you didn't get smacked around by life your kid's going to look at you and go Dad I have a very complicated problem you know my girl left me this this this and you're going to give him this whole son Time Heals all which is kind

of like traumatizing for the child but when your kid looks at you and goes my dad got smacked around way worse there's Comfort there he goes oh you know it's not that bad

Jon Zherka on how to Succeed in life

Jacob Plug

Internal dreams are contrasted with external influences (feelings) impacting one's thoughts.

External factors like media consumption can create negative feelings (loneliness, inadequacy).

External desires (e.g., relationships) can distract from pursuing internal dreams.

The importance of recognizing that external influences are often unproductive and should be ignored.

The analogy of consistently building (laying bricks) towards one's dreams is introduced.

Distractions (relationships) interrupt the process of building towards one's goals.

Even when distracted, the focus returns to the core objective (dreams).

The consequences of prioritizing external distractions over internal goals are explored.

Relationships can negatively impact the pursuit of dreams, causing identity loss.

The speaker discusses the regret of pausing personal dreams for a relationship.

The difficulty of regaining momentum and joy in pursuing one's goals after a setback.

The importance of resilience and returning to one's goals after setbacks.

The speaker highlights the long-term rewards of consistent effort: building a strong foundation.

Personal anecdote illustrating the speaker's past struggles and eventual success.

Comparison of current successful life versus a hypothetical life with past relationship.

The speaker describes their current financial stability and ability to overcome setbacks.

The role of the internet in building success and overcoming financial challenges.

The importance of not solely focusing on money and the dangers of such a mindset.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of achieving a balanced life beyond financial success.

Critiques the societal expectation of long working hours for minimal rewards.

Happiness and fulfillment are not solely defined by material wealth or career success.

Challenges are viewed as learning opportunities for growth and development.

The speaker discusses different perspectives on suffering, comparing theistic and atheistic views.

The value of past experiences in providing guidance and support to others.