Journey of Self-Improvement and Confidence Through Looks

Looks maxing transformed his life, boosting confidence and shifting focus from validation to finding purpose.

### From Loneliness to Transformation: A Journey of Self-Improvement
* 💔 Three years ago, I was feeling **incredibly lonely**, having just finished high school and disconnected from friends, which led me to seek companionship on the **LOI Discord server**.
* 🎮 In the server's introduction section, I aimed to find a gamer girlfriend, spending **hours messaging users**, and eventually connected with an **American girl who played CS:GO**.
* 💬 As we played together, we developed a deeper connection, with her sending me **affectionate messages** and eventually asking for a selfie, which I hesitated to send due to my **low self-esteem**.
* 😞 After finally gathering the courage to share my picture, I was left devastated when she ghosted me, leading me to believe **my looks were the reason for her disinterest**.
* 💪 This experience fueled my desire for self-improvement, prompting me to research ways to **enhance my appearance**, including hairstyle changes and skincare routines.
* I adopted a skincare regimen that included drinking more water and using products like niacinamide, which **significantly improved my skin's condition** over time.
* 🧔 I also tackled issues like my monobrow and yellow teeth, making efforts to groom my beard properly, which contributed to a **more polished look**.
* 🌟 After two years of dedication to self-improvement, I noticed a positive change in how I was treated by others, shifting my focus from **seeking validation through looks** to **finding purpose and meaning in life**.

Three years ago, I was scrolling through a certain Discord server, the LOI server, huh? Around this point, I was just about to finish high school, but I'd stopped speaking to most of my friends, and so I was very, very lonely at this point. And so, there was an

introduction section inside this LOI server. Pretty much, you introduce yourself, then you can make new friends, meet new people, you know, find people to play games with. And I, well, I was horny, and I used this introduction section as a matchmaker to find a gamer girlfriend

for myself. Yeah, you can't make this up. I, I spent hours of my day doing this, by the way. Yeah, maybe I'm too open on this channel. One day, I saw a message from a user that said "18F" - F for female, by the

way - "looking for buddies to play CS:GO with." And I, I hopped on that straight away because I, you know, standards, dude. I didn't even need to know what they looked like, and so I instantly, just like that, messaged her on Discord. And this is where the fun

begins. We just started talking, you know, the boring, right, introducing ourselves, "My name is blah blah blah." We got along very, very well. I learned that she was from America, which I obviously am not, but uh, I didn't give a, and so she went hoping a call with me and play

a game of CS:GO, which I was so down for, but I was also very, very nervous. So I put on my deep, sexy voice, and I went in there. We started playing, I got to hear her voice, it was very, very fun. I'm not going to lie, I had, I had a good time.

playing with her albeit you know the server paying the lag I was playing on American servers I'm not I'm from across the world from there but it was fun I didn't give a I was speaking to a girl hell yes that's all that mattered and this became

a daily occurrence although I'd have to play in the mornings for her to to you know account for the the time difference but again I didn't really I didn't really care and a week into playing with her I know we get to start to know each

other a bit better now on a deeper level and we start talking about things that aren't just about video games you know about whole lives we we actually started to get to know each other a bit better now and eventually she started sending me good morning texts on Discord she started

to like me a lot like a lot a lot right I would get good afternoons good mornings good nights bro how I use I was I was getting bombarded with messages she couldn't stop messaging me and I really did like her as well because

again she was the only girl giving me attention at the time and she eventually sent me a selfie of herself for the first time ever with like a Snapchat um text in front of her face kind of blocking it kind of but that was the first time I ever saw her face

and I I mean I thought she was pretty cute she was white um yeah that's pretty much all but here's the thing bro when she sent me that I could tell that she wanted me to send one back right she wanted to know what I look like but can

You guess what I said? Oh, I I I can't right now. You know I I'll send one later. At the time, my confidence was at an all-time low when it came to voice chat. I could speak to girls, chat them up all day long, no

problem, bro. But when anything and everything came to my face, if anything came to my face, bro, I would I would fold. I didn't want anything to do with it because I simply thought I was just very very ugly, like simply put, I thought I was ugly. Hence, while I was that lonely

kid in high school, you know, I didn't really have a very fulfilling social life. I was a kid in the corner of the classroom who's this quiet and so a couple days go past and she keeps on nagging me to send a picture of myself.

What do you look like, cutie? And so this one night she was just sending me so many texts, like she was replying instantly. She wanted to see me that night, and you know I was like, uh, screw it, right? You know, I've been speaking to

this girl for long enough, you know, she's a nice girl, I know she won't say anything bad, uh, you know, F it, bro, why not? I I started like getting the best angles, the best lighting, you know, I took a picture of myself in actual confidence this time because

this was probably the best selfie that I've ever taken in my life. I can't lie, bro. Yeah, bro, I'm going to send her the selfie, and so I did. I sent it to her. I showed her my face for the very very first time, and I was just fantasizing on

what she was going to say oh my God you're such a cutie you're such this oh you're so handsome you're so hard this blah blah blah and a couple minutes go past you know she was replying instantly before or why didn't she reply in

something other so whatever bro 5 minutes go past 10 minutes go past it's fine she's probably just taking a  break on the toilet it's fine it's fine yeah I never heard from her ever [Music] again man what a hit to my self-esteem

bro oh my God you know I wasn't even that sad about the fact that this girl ghosted me what I was actually sad about was honestly the fact that my personality was there but my looks weren't she liked me until she saw my face yeah that hit me pretty hard and

for me this was the last straw well one of the last straws see like this similar situation happened to me quite a few times and I've had enough like honestly I just wanted to prove them wrong for once in my life this made me want to go into the

shadows for a very long long time go ghost and then come back a completely different person to where I was the one who would be able to reject them right I became pretty vengeful because of occurrences like this I became pretty uh hateful towards girls and so one day I

was looking up online how I improve my looks and I came across looks maxing just a quick break though if you are enjoying the story feel free to subscribe to the channel and also feel free to um follow my Instagram as well if you want those two things help me out

a lot so thank you so much for that and we go back to the video okay so this was over the span of 2 and 1 half years or something like that right the first thing that I saw that you got to start doing to look better is to start mewing

apparently this will chisel up your jawline make your jawline stand out more you know you know obviously I didn't see results straight away this this stuff takes a long time but I started mewing however the very first thing I actually did to improve my looks was my hairstyle

see my hair at the time was a pile of  it looked like an absolute mess a bird's nest I've had many many different hairstyles up to this point I've tried short I've tried long medium everything has looked terrible on me at least I

thought everything looked horrible on me and so I looked up how to actually find a good hairstyle for you and everyone on the internet says to find your face shape first because as soon as you find your face shape then you'll know what hairstyle honestly guys that confused

the hell out of me and I simply went back to monkey I just I just experimented right I didn't I didn't use any of this face shape I experimented and so I just tried out a whole bunch of different haircuts hairstyles I had longer hair at the time

so I cut my hair I went short and I thought that looked horrible on me but I noticed something when I had short hair I had flaws on my face and I know that sounds weird but I had flaws that needed to be covered and having short hair kind of

revealed that to me now the first thing I noticed is the sides of my head, they protrude out but you can't notice that because I've got longer hair that's that's covering it, right? I just have a big head and in my opinion it looks

weird. So that's the first thing I realized that I need hair on the side of my head. Second off, my forehead, now my forehead, my hairline is fine right? But for some reason and I'm not even sure why I just kind of like with my hair

slicked back with my forehead visible it kind of just looks weird from the side, don't you agree? So I need a hairstyle which kind of covers my forehead a little bit, that's the second thing. And finally, the back of my head, you definitely can't notice it now but the

back of my head usually is very flat and when I have a shorter haircut it looks very weird, right? It looks weird, it looks like I've just got a flat head that can be just slapped and that kind of leads me to the current hairstyle I have now, kind of long on the

front, longer on the sides, long on the back as well. See how I kind of experimented with my own head shape and kind of saw my flows and kind of based the haircut around that? However, but now I need to figure out how to actually style my hair. See, for my whole life

again, I just used you know products that other people have given me, right? And that doesn't work because everyone has a different hair type and so I've got to find a product for my own hair that actually works for my own hair and I experimented with so many different

things guys, but honestly I just went back to the Organic Roots and I just use hair oil, it's perfect, like coconut oil, perfect for my hair, perfect. But it's most likely not going to be the same for you. And honestly, in terms of styling it, all I do is just wet my hair first and

then grab a bunch of coconut oil and put it in my hair and wait for it to dry. So now I have a better hairstyle. But the next thing to solve is my God awful skin. See, at that time, believe it or not, bro, I don't know why, I literally went days

without drinking water at times. I didn't have a skincare routine. My diet was kind of M.D. Yeah, I didn't even get much sleep either. So that explains why my skin looked like that. So the first thing I did was obviously start drinking a ton of water, at least like 3 L a day. And that

by itself made my skin a lot more vibrant. And the second thing I needed to do was hop on a skincare routine. So I started cleansing my skin every morning and night, and then I started using a niacinamide by The Ordinary and moisturize. And over time,

this actually started to clear my skin, believe it or not. The niacinamide actually really did work. And by this point, my skin was looking a hell of a lot better. I didn't really fix up my diet because I didn't really, I didn't really know back

then, but these two things really did change my skin for the better. Now, the third thing I realized was, um, I had a monobrow, low key. I had a monobrow for most of my life. I, I was literally singing Fancy son right. I had a monobrow and I

needed to shave that you know one should have hair in the middle of their brows bro what is this okay the caveman era no I also had yellow teeth not going to lie and so this was when I started reducing the amount of sugar I ate in my diet I also implemented a

natural herbal teeth whitening toothpaste into my diet this was by Red Seal so I started doing that and over time bro my teeth slowly started to get whiter and whiter although this took a couple months so be patient with this one okay and at this point I was in

Malaysia for my brother's wedding my brother was getting married right and everyone has beards in Malaysia I've tried growing out my beard in the past I've always shaved it off cuz it looked it looked scraggly horrible but this time I'm going to grow it out

and grow it out I did and by the time I came back to New Zealand it looked horrible it looked so unkempt it looked so untidy it looked like a typical Indian guy's beard yeah I'm calling you out but it was only after

a year so 2024 bro when I actually learned how to groom it properly and so how I typically actually groom it is I like to keep the chin a little bit longer than the sides kind of just creates that shape a little bit more and

I learned how to line it up properly as well from like a year ago it looks a lot better now it's been 2 years since I've actually started this journey and I've been mewing for 2 years now I do believe the mewing did make a small

difference, albeit probably not to a crazy amount. Okay, however, I still recommend mewing like 24/7. I still mew 24/7, it's just proper tongue posture at the end of the day. There's no excuse not to mew. Don't break your mew streak.

dumbass. And yeah man, half of this whole thing was honestly just experimenting and I'd like to say I look a little bit different, you know, than I did three years ago. As for girls, yeah, I do get treated better by them now. That's that's without

a doubt, but honestly, guys, since since then my goals have changed, you know, from wanting to attract as many girls as possible because I've simply just been hurt by them. Now, actually, just wanting to find purpose in life, you know, just wanting to find something meaningful to do.

something to strive for every single day, and I recommend you do the same. Don't fall under the look-maxing trap, you know, that your looks are everything in life because it's not. It's really just not okay. And yeah, I love to clown on looks

maxing sometimes, but honestly, it it did really change my life, right? It made me a lot more confident in my own skin and at the end of the day, I think that's all that matters, right? I hope you enjoyed this story. Feel free to subscribe, like

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Loneliness and the Search for a Gamer Girlfriend

Narrator was lonely after high school and used a Discord server to find a girlfriend.

He used the server's introduction section as a matchmaker.

He found a female CS:GO player and started chatting with her.

They played CS:GO together and got along well, despite the time difference.

He was nervous and used a deep voice during their calls.

Relationship Progression and the Selfie Incident

The girl started showing a lot of interest and affection.

She sent him a selfie, prompting him to send one back.

He hesitated to send a selfie due to low self-esteem.

He eventually sent a selfie after much persuasion.

The girl ghosted him after seeing his selfie.

The experience significantly impacted his self-esteem.

He decided to improve his looks to prove people wrong.

He started researching ways to improve his appearance.

He started mewing and experimenting with hairstyles.

He found that certain hairstyles hid flaws in his face shape.

He identified flaws like protruding sides of his head and a flat back of his head.

He experimented with hair products to find what worked best for his hair type.

He improved his skin by drinking more water and starting a skincare routine.

He shaved his monobrow and whitened his teeth.

He now gets treated better by girls but has shifted his focus from attracting girls to finding purpose in life.

He cautions against focusing solely on looks.

He concludes that looksmaxing increased his confidence.