Understanding Emotions and Relationships in Personal Growth

Understanding one's emotions and environment is essential for personal growth and meaningful relationships.

### Navigating Emotions and Relationships: A Journey of Self-Discovery
* 🤔 The speaker reflects on the limitations of their experiences with larger language models, expressing a **desire for improvement** while acknowledging **personal responsibility** in their perceptions.
* 💭 They emphasize the importance of **viewing oneself as part of the environment**, suggesting that understanding this **interconnectedness** could enhance one's perspective on life.
* 🌱 Transitioning from a level four perspective to a level three perspective has been a **significant realization** for the speaker, who wishes they had **embraced it earlier**.
* 💪 They assert that emotional agency begins after adolescence, highlighting the **necessity of personal responsibility** in managing one's feelings and environment.
* 🌍 The speaker recognizes the challenges of building a supportive environment, especially when feeling low, but stresses that it is **essential to learn and grow through these difficulties**.
* ❤ Love and relationships are explored, with the speaker noting the **complexity of finding connections** with others who share **similar values and intuitions**.
* 🔍 They ponder the nature of recognizing kindred spirits, admitting that while **love at first sight** exists, it can be misleading, and **true understanding develops over time**.
* 💡 Ultimately, the speaker believes that with age comes **improved insight into meaningful interactions**, although they acknowledge that they are still learning how to **navigate these dynamics effectively**.

It sounds to me like you're saying there's basically no limitations. Your intuition says to what larger language models are limited. So when I currently play with it, it's quite limited. I wish that it was way better, but isn't that your fault versus the large model's fault?

Of course, it's always my fault. There's probably a way to make everything your fault. I just want to get you on the record saying yes, everything is my fault. That works, doesn't work in my life, at least that is usually the most useful perspective for myself, even though the

sci-sight, I feel no, I sometimes wish I could have seen myself as part of my environment more and understand that a lot of people are actually seeing me and looking at me and not trying to make my life work in the same way as I try to

help others. And um, making this switch to U this level three perspective is something that happened long after my level four perspective in my life, and I wish that I could have had it earlier. And it's also not now that I don't feel like I'm complete. I'm all over the place.

That's all where's happiness in terms of stages is on three or four. Take that tangent. You can be happy at any stage or unhappy. Oh, um, but I think that if you are at a stage where you get agency over how your feelings are generated and to

some degree, you start doing this when you leave adolescence. I believe that you understand that you, you are in charge of your own emotions to some degree, and that you are responsible for how you approach the world. That uh, it's basically your task to have some basic hygiene. How and the

way in which you deal with your mind and you cannot blame your environment for the way in which you feel, but you live in a world that is highly mobile and it's your job to choose the environment that you thrive in and to build it. And sometimes it's difficult to get the

necessary strengths and um energy to do this and independence. And the worse you feel, the harder it is, but um it's something that you learn. It's also this thing that we are usually incomplete, like I'm I'm a rare mind, which means I'm a mind that is in

complete in ways that are harder to complete. So for me, uh it might have been harder to initially to find the right relationships and friends that complete me to the degree that I become an almost functional human being. Uh oh man, the search space of humans

that complete you is an interesting one. Mhm. Especially for Yosh shabak, that that's an interesting because talking about brute force search in chess. Yeah, I want I wonder I wonder what that search tree looks like. Like I think that my rational thinking is not good enough to solve that task. A

lot of problems in my life that I can conceptualize as software problems and uh the failure modes are bugs and I can debug them and write software that takes care of the missing functionality, but there is stuff that I don't understand well enough to uh to

use my analytical reasoning to solve the issue, and then I have to develop my intuitions and often I have to do this with people who are wiser than me. And that's something that's hard for me because I don't have, I'm not born with

the instinct to submit to other people's wisdom yeah so what kind of problems are we talking about this is stage three like love I found love was never hard hard then fitting into a world where most people work differently than you and have different intuitions of what should

be done ah so empathy um it's also it's aesthetics when you come into a world where almost everything is ugly and you come out of a world where everything is beautiful I grew up in a beautiful place and as a child of an artist yeah and um in in

this place it was mostly nature mhm everything had intrinsic beauty and everything was built out of an intrinsic need for it to work for itself and everything that my father created was something that he made to get the to work for himself and I felt the same

thing and when I come out into the world and I am asked to submit to lots and lots of rules I'm asking okay when I observe your stupid rules what is the benefit and I see the life that is being offered as a reward it's not

attractive when you were born and raised in an extraterrestrial prince in a world full of people wearing suits so it's a it's a challenging integration yes but it also means that I'm often blind for the ways in which everybody is creating their own bubble

of wholesomeness or almost everybody and people are trying to do it and for me to discover this it was necessary that I found people who had a similar shape of soul as myself so Bessy where these are my people people that um treat each

other in such a way as if they're around with each other for eternity. How long, how long does it take you to uh to detect the geometry, the shape of the soul of another human, to notice that they might be one of your kind? Um, sometimes it's instantly and I'm

wrong and sometimes it takes a long time. You believe in love at first sight? Y- yes, but I also noticed that I have been wrong so uh sometimes I look at a person and I'm just enamored by everything about them and uh sometimes this persists and sometimes it

doesn't. And I, I have the illusion that it they're much better at recognizing who people are as they grow older, but that could be just cynicism. No, no, it's not cynicism, it's um it's often more that I'm able to recognize what somebody needs when we

interact and how we can meaningfully interact. It's not cynical at all. You're better at noticing? Yes, I'm much better I think in some circumstances at understanding how to interact with other people than I did when I was young. So that takes us, doesn't mean that I'm

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Joscha Bach Bits

Personal Responsibility and Limitations of AI

Speaker discusses perceived limitations of large language models, questioning whether shortcomings are due to the model or its application.

Speaker takes responsibility for any issues, emphasizing a personal perspective of fault.

Reflection on past perspectives and the desire for a broader understanding of interpersonal dynamics.

Discussion of personal growth stages and the importance of agency over emotions.

Emotional Maturity and Environmental Influence

Speaker connects happiness to emotional agency and responsibility for one's emotional state.

Emphasis on personal responsibility for emotional well-being and the importance of choosing a supportive environment.

Discussion of the challenges in building a thriving environment and the difficulty when feeling low.

Speaker describes their personality as 'incomplete' and the difficulty in finding fulfilling relationships.

Challenges in Personal Relationships and Problem Solving

Metaphor of searching for compatible people as a complex search problem.

Speaker discusses the limitations of rational thinking in solving certain personal problems.

Comparison of solvable problems to software bugs and the need for intuition in others.

Difficulty in seeking wisdom from others due to lack of innate instinct.

Specific Examples of Challenging Problems

Challenges in navigating relationships and integrating into a world with different values.

Discussion of aesthetic differences between upbringing and the outside world.

Difficulty in accepting rules without understanding their benefits.

Speaker's unique perspective hinders integration into conventional society.

Finding Like-Minded Individuals and Recognizing Compatibility

Importance of finding people with similar values and perspectives.

Description of ideal relationships as those with a sense of eternity.

Discussion of the time it takes to recognize compatibility in others.

Belief in love at first sight, but acknowledging instances of error.

Improved ability to understand others' needs and interact meaningfully.

Acknowledgement of continued growth in interpersonal skills despite imperfections.