The Importance of Relationships in Education

Teachers inspire change through meaningful relationships, proving that connection enhances learning and empowers students.

### The Power of Human Connection in Education
* 📚 "No significant learning can occur without a **significant relationship**," emphasizes the importance of **human connections in education**, as highlighted by James Comer.
* 👩 Having spent a lifetime in education, the speaker reflects on the various reforms and recognizes that while some have been beneficial, many challenges like **poverty and low attendance** persist.
* 💔 The speaker argues that one critical aspect often overlooked is the **value of relationships**, stating, "**Kids don't learn from people they don't like**."
* 🌟 By fostering a positive environment, teachers can **uplift students’ self-esteem and academic performance**, as shown through the speaker's **innovative approach to motivate their class**.
* ✊ The speaker shares a personal anecdote about a struggling student, demonstrating how a **positive reinforcement strategy** can **change a child's perspective on learning**.
* 💖 The legacy of impactful educators, like the speaker's mother, illustrates how **meaningful relationships can leave a lasting impression on students**, as many former students honored her at her funeral.
* 🎭 Teaching requires **resilience and the ability to connect**, even on tough days, as educators strive to **inspire students to take risks and think critically**.
* 🏆 Ultimately, every child deserves a champion—an adult who **believes in them and is committed to helping them reach their fullest potential**, reinforcing the idea that educators are "**born to make a difference**."

Transcriber: Joseph Geni  
Reviewer: Morton Bast  

I have spent my entire life either at the schoolhouse, on the way to the schoolhouse, or talking about what happens in the schoolhouse. (Laughter) Both my parents were educators, my maternal grandparents were educators, and for the past 40 years, I've done the same thing. And so, needless to say, over those years I've had a chance to look at education reform from a lot of perspectives. Some of those reforms have been good. Some of them have been not so good. And we know why kids drop out. We know why kids don't learn. It's either poverty, low attendance, negative peer influences... We know why. But one of the things that we never discuss or we rarely discuss is the value and importance of human connection. Relationships. James Comer says that no significant learning can occur without a significant relationship. George Washington Carver says all learning

is understanding relationships. Everyone in this room has been affected by a teacher or an adult. For years, I have watched people teach. I have looked at the best and I've looked at some of the worst. A colleague said to me one time, They don't pay me to like the kids. They pay me to teach a lesson. The kids should learn it. I should teach it, they should learn it, case closed. Well, I said to her, You know, kids don't learn from people they don't like. (Laughter) (Applause) She said, That's just a bunch of hooey. And I said to her, Well, your year is going to be long and arduous, dear. Needless to say, it was. Some people think that you can either have it in you to build a relationship, or you don't. I think Stephen Covey had the right idea. He said you ought to just throw in a few simple things,

like seeking first to understand, as opposed to being understood. Simple things, like apologizing. You ever thought about that? Tell a kid you're sorry, they're in shock. (Laughter) I taught a lesson once on ratios. I'm not real good with math, but I was working on it. (Laughter) And I got back and looked at that teacher edition. I'd taught the whole lesson wrong. (Laughter) So I came back to class the next day and I said, Look, guys, I need to apologize. I taught the whole lesson wrong. I'm so sorry. They said, That's okay, Ms. Pierson. You were so excited, we just let you go. I have had classes that were so low, so academically deficient, that I cried. I wondered, How am I going to take this group, in nine months, from where they are to where they need to be?

And it was difficult; it was awfully hard. How do I raise the self-esteem of a child and his academic achievement at the same time? One year, I came up with a bright idea. I told all my students, You were chosen to be in my class because I am the best teacher, and you are the best students. They put us all together so we could show everybody else how to do it. One of the students said, Really? (Laughter) I said, Really. We have to show the other classes how to do it, so when we walk down the hall, people will notice us, so you can't make noise. You just have to strut. (Laughter) And I gave them a saying to say: I am somebody. I was somebody when I came. I'll be a better somebody when I leave. I am powerful, and I am strong. I deserve the education that I get here. I have things to do, people to impress,

and places to go. And they said, Yeah! (Laughter) You say it long enough, it starts to be a part of you. (Applause) I gave a quiz, 20 questions. A student missed 18. I put a +2 on his paper and a big smiley face. (Laughter) He said, Ms. Pierson, is this an F? I said, Yes. (Laughter) He said, Then why'd you put a smiley face? I said, Because you're on a roll. You got two right. You didn't miss them all. (Laughter) I said, And when we review this, won't you do better? He said, Yes, ma'am, I can do better. You see, -18 sucks all the life out of you. +2 said, I ain't all bad. For years, I watched my mother take the time at recess to review,

go on home visits in the afternoon, buy combs and brushes, and peanut butter and crackers to put in her desk drawer for kids that needed to eat, and a washcloth and some soap for the kids who didn't smell so good. See, it's hard to teach kids who stink. (Laughter) And kids can be cruel. And so she kept those things in her desk, and years later, after she retired, I watched some of those same kids come through and say to her, You know, Ms. Walker, you made a difference in my life. You made it work for me. You made me feel like I was somebody when I knew, at the bottom, I wasn't. And I want you to just see what I've become. And when my mama died two years ago at 92, there were so many former students at her funeral, it brought tears to my eyes, not because she was gone, but because she left a legacy of relationships.

that could never disappear. Can we stand to have more relationships? Absolutely. Will you like all your children? Of course not. (Laughter) And you know your toughest kids are never absent. (Laughter) Never. You won't like them all, and the tough ones show up for a reason. It's the connection. It's the relationships. So teachers become great actors and great actresses, and we come to work when we don't feel like it, and we're listening to policy that doesn't make sense, and we teach anyway. We teach anyway, because that's what we do. Teaching and learning should bring joy. How powerful would our world be if we had kids who were not afraid to take risks, who were not afraid to think, and who had a champion? Every child deserves a champion, an adult who will never give up on them, who understands the power of connection, and insists that they become the best that they can possibly be.

Is this job tough? You betcha. Oh God, you betcha. But it is not impossible. We can do this. We're educators. We're born to make a difference. Thank you so much. (Applause)

Every kid needs a champion | Rita Pierson | TED

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The Importance of Human Connection in Education

The speaker has dedicated their life to education and has observed various reforms over the years.

They emphasize the significance of human connections and relationships in the learning process, arguing that kids don't learn from people they don't like.

The speaker believes that building relationships is essential for effective teaching and learning.

The Power of Apology and Self-Esteem in Teaching

Apologizing to students for mistakes can have a positive impact and build trust.

The teacher struggled with academically deficient classes and sought to raise both self-esteem and academic achievement.

By empowering students with a sense of importance and purpose, the teacher aimed to create a positive and impactful learning environment.

The Impact of Positive Reinforcement in Teaching

The speaker shares a story about giving a student a smiley face for getting two questions right, emphasizing the importance of positive reinforcement.

The speaker's mother, a teacher, went above and beyond to support her students, providing them with basic necessities and building meaningful relationships.

The legacy of the speaker's mother is highlighted by the former students who attended her funeral, expressing gratitude for the difference she made in their lives.

Building strong relationships is crucial in education, as not all students will be liked, but they all play a significant role.

Teachers often face challenges but continue to teach with passion and dedication.

Every child deserves a champion who will support and encourage them to reach their full potential, making a positive impact in their lives.