Confidence, Romance, and the Male-Female Dynamic Explained

Confidence thrives when one embraces their active role in relationships, avoiding passivity and maintaining self-love.

### Understanding Confidence and Relationships: The Active vs. Passive Dynamic
* 🛡 "The moment you take that armor off and start looking at her, you're a **passive observer**." This highlights the shift from being an **active principal** to a **passive one** in relationships.
* 💔 When you become overly invested in a romantic interest, you risk **losing your confidence and agency**, which can lead to **negative outcomes**.
* 🧬 Confidence is described as being **partly genetic**, suggesting that while it can be influenced by personal experiences, some aspects are **innate and shared among individuals**.
* 📜 The narrative of love is not as simple as "boy meets girl"; it involves deeper dynamics where a woman's attraction often reflects a **man's self-perception**.
* 💡 Understanding that love can be excessive and counterproductive is crucial, as **too much affection can lead to detrimental outcomes**, akin to loving a child to the point of harm.
* 🔄 The collective unconscious plays a significant role in shaping our experiences and connections, allowing individuals to **tap into shared ancestral memories and confidence**.
* 🎭 The influence of pop culture and mythology can **confuse personal identity and archetypal roles**, making it essential to **recognize the deeper roots of these narratives**.
* 🏋 Ultimately, cultivating confidence through personal development, such as fitness and financial stability, can **enhance attractiveness** and lead to **healthier relationships**.

John, how can I increase my confidence? I'm 19 years old and blah blah blah. Listen man, listen man, let me tell you the truth about confidence. It's genetic, yeah, it's she sck [__]. It's um, it's genetic. And people are like, Why do you say such blackpilling stuff? I thought you're Mr. white pill for us. And I'm like, Bro, confidence is genetic. But what else is genetic? Just use your brain. The collective unconscious, that there has been so many studies of paranormal phenomena where someone goes into a trance and starts speaking languages they don't know, starts speaking ancient languages. And sometimes it's an evil thing, sometimes it's just they hit their noggin somewhere, you know what I mean? And that means if in this collective unconscious we can tap into and become geniuses, right? You can tap into your Japanese DNA as a white man. That's why a lot of white guys have this urge to go to the East and then some of these

reincarnationists will blame it on that, but it's not that. It's the collective unconscious, dude. It's try, but it's Mercurial, but it can be anything. It can be anything. You know, some of you guys have a stronger connection to pop culture, maybe Dragon Ball and stuff like that, which kind of replaces that need for those archetypal symbols that surround heroic characters. Or usually, it's like a European mythology mythos that gets replaced by pop culture, and that's why you feel so confused, and you replace the knight from maybe Goku or something. But you, as a human, sometimes it's not just your ancestors that you can tap into. It's other people's ancestors, which sounds crazy, but this has been proven, right? This is a very strange thing that's been proven many times over. I think it's still the healthiest attachment to your own ancestors. I think you have the most memory there. It's the most recent because I know what you guys

are thinking like how can you have memories of other people, other nations. You just can, right? They're buried deep down there, but you can just have this experience where you unravel them. So basically, what I'm saying is if confidence is genetic and we all share the same DNA, the same psychic energies, just expressed differently, maybe white, brown, Asian, whatever, but they're all mixed down there into one, then that means you too can't tap into confidence in any form. What's one thing you wish you knew at 21 years old? At 21, I wish I understood that it's not boy falls in love with girl, girl falls in love with boy. It's not girl falls in love with boy, boy falls in love with girl. That doesn't work. The movies are going to [__] you up. The only thing, the only experience in life you need in the field of romance, right? The only thing that's ever 100% accurate is when she falls in love with you and you realize that you have to stay in

love with you. She's only in love with you 'cause she saw that look in your eye that you're in love with you. The [ __ ] are you sorry this bugging now. Listen, a lot of you guys are going to immediately flip-flop this on some egalitarian [ __ ] and said, Oh yeah, even when a girl loves herself, the guy loves her more. That's not how it works. This doesn't go both ways. This is an active male principle versus a passive female principle, right? For a long-lasting, genuine, burning desire out the right, you might burn her, scold her so much, she goes crazy. But you got to remember, even in your past, if you have experience, if you're an older guy, or if you're a younger guy, don't watch the movies, watch the real storylines of your friends, families, people around you. The stories that look correct is where she, you can just see a woman look into a man. Let's say Adam, let's say Adam and Eve, right? Eve looks at Adam, and Adam is

feeling himself, Adam is doing everything correct in life. He's killing it in life, and he gets a little confident, overconfident, and usually, that's where they fall, where Eve falls for Adam. Right now, here's what happens to most of us: is Adam, like us, falls in love with her, and then that image that he's in love with of himself, right? Not in love, but you know, he sees himself up here like, I'm an active principal. I can actively take care of her. As soon as he goes lovey-dovey with her, he becomes a passive principal, right? And you can love something until you kill it. You can love your child till it's an obese, can't breathe, getting bullied in school. Love is not, it's not what you've been taught by these [__] liberal hippies, dude, right? You can have too much freedom, and the other facing direction is you can't have too much love, unity. It's the opposite, so you need to understand this first of all. Um, here's the worst part: by the time

this video hits you, and you say, Damn, Zer, you actually changed my life. You'll probably have [ __ ] up maybe 10, 20 times, and I've been doing this, you know, I've been helping people for a long time now, and I've never gotten an email where someone says, Hey, you saved me the trouble of a couple heartbreaks and 10 relationships. And it's always whether they understand what I'm teaching or not, it's always the same thing that, uh, it doesn't hit until you get [ __ ] over a bunch of times. That's why I feel for these young men. I'm like, It's you. You got to almost take what I'm saying when it comes to this stuff. You got to almost take what I'm saying, uh, as like almost prophetic, not in a blasphemous way, but this is a spiritual message that, yes, she's going to fall for you when you're busy making money in the gym, looking tight. You're

Looking in the mirror, she's looking at you. The moment you turn to her and start looking at her, it's bad, right? You might have a fun couple of months, but you're um, as soon as you turn into her, a passive principal. You are [ __ ] right. Passive means getting [ __ ]. They get [ __ ]. You do not want to get [ __ ]. You do the [ __ ] correct, so can't stress this enough. I know it sounds like mystical dating advice, but uh, you should be thinking of this archetypally. You should not be thinking of just statistics and red pill blah blah. It should be medieval. It should be a storyline in your head, right? You need to, once you're knight in shining armor, is shiny. You're both looking at the armor. She's looking at and so are you. You're like, damn, I'm shiny, and she's like, you so shiny, and she's got her hand on your chest plate.

the moment you take that armor off and start looking at her, you're a [ __ ] [Music]

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Confidence is largely genetic, and the collective unconscious may play a role in tapping into different abilities.

Many people experience a shift in their role and confidence when they fall in love.

The speaker emphasizes that love and freedom can both be excessive, leading to negative outcomes.

The Influence of Collective Unconscious and Pop Culture

The collective unconscious, rather than reincarnation, plays a significant role in shaping individual connections to archetypal symbols and heroic characters.

Pop culture, like Dragon Ball, often replaces traditional European mythology, leading to confusion in identity and character representation.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of tapping into one's own ancestors for memory and guidance, while also acknowledging the strange phenomenon of connecting with others' ancestors.

Love dynamics are influenced by active male and passive female principles, with a woman's love often stemming from a man's confidence.

Personal experiences and real-life stories, rather than movies, provide a clearer understanding of romantic relationships.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of a woman falling in love with a man as the key to genuine desire and lasting connection.

The moment you take off your armor and start looking at her, it can lead to a shift in power dynamics.

This passive role can result in negative consequences, and it's important to maintain a strong presence.

Thinking of the relationship archetypically, like a medieval storyline, can help navigate the dynamics effectively.