online dating is like fishing from the pool in your backyard, except there's 20 other dudes also fishing, and there's only one fish. And then afterwards, you think to yourself, Man, something must be wrong with my Rod, or maybe I'm just a poor fisherman. Meanwhile, if you went to a bigger Pond, a lake, the ocean, or just somewhere without other fishermen, you would do just fine. But you never thought of that because you're an idiot. So in this video, I'm going to teach you how to get girls by using the easy dating formula. Dating is actually quite easy. There's two things for you to focus on: one is internal, two is external. External is your environment, location, and the men and women in your area. Internal is you: your intelligence, social awareness, charisma, social circle, productivity, discipline, status, etc. The formula goes like this: internal plus external equals success. That's it. And I know it sounds simple, but that's because dating is simple. Lots of YouTubers and psychologists try to overcomplicate to sound smart, and this is why so many guys

are frustrated. It's idiots teaching other idiots. My name is Denmo, and yes, I am an idiot. An experienced idiot that has done thousands of approaches in dates and social interactions. Using my experience, I've helped thousands of men get into successful relationships and make large friend groups by learning the socializing system. Now, most guys struggle with dating because you were told the wrong thing. Yes, bro, you were lied to, but that's okay. You made it here, so now I can help you. Back to the formula. In order to be successful dating, you usually need both internal and external to line up. However, there are a couple exceptions. So let me just start this video off by sharing a couple with you. Here's three examples of guys who get laid pretty easily despite only focusing on one thing. Example number one, if you have high status like you're a musician, YouTuber, actor, etc., then girls will come to you. They see you on stage or on social media, and this makes them aware of who you are and more likely to

start a conversation with you, or be receptive to an approach you make based on familiarity. This is why so many guys become rappers, YouTubers, actors, etc. When you have status, people notice you, they pay attention to you, they come to you, and usually, it gives a guy much more of an excuse to start a conversation with a woman if she, like, knows who you are already, right? This is why you see so many people try to be famous. Example number two, if you live in an environment that is 70% women, like, you know, some liberal college campus, you have more options because of the ratio. When the women outnumber the men, they start to compete for them. It's like the opposite of dating apps where men outnumber women significantly. And then example number three is you live in a place that is 50/50 men and women, and you're poor. Uh-oh. However, you work in a bar and you have a 100 friends, so you're always around new women, and because of this, you stick around long enough that eventually

a girl likes you. These are three examples of common ways for guys to have a successful dating life. You can either become famous or well-known at a specific skill or talent. You can be somewhere where there's way more women than there are men. Or you can be in a job where you are constantly surrounded by women, therefore it's so much easier for you to interact with them, learn how to socialize with them, and have a large social circle where you are frequently meeting new women. Okay, these are the three best ways to do it, but in this video I'm going to kind of go more in depth as to the actual strategies for you to be more well-rounded so that way you don't need to just rely on one of these. You actually can be more versatile. And my point is these three examples are common, but you should not rely on them. They are just things that happen accidentally. For example, you get a random job that just happens to have a bunch of girls. You have a crush on one of the girls you work with. Boom, you guys.

start dating. You love making music, and you end up becoming famous, and people like listening to you. So now they come to your shows and see you perform, and because of that, you get to meet more women. My point here is that these are all secondary results that you get from doing the primary action. Okay, so the primary action is you go to college to get a degree, to get a job, and have a career. The secondary benefit is you are surrounded by lots of women. Primary action is you make music and perform because you love it. The secondary benefit is women listen to music and they want to meet you. Do you see what I'm getting at, guys? Like a lot of dudes who are succeeding with women usually did so accidentally because they don't go on YouTube and watch videos like how to get girls. They just got a job somewhere, or they just started playing sports, or they just walk down the street and they see a girl they want to talk to, and they do, and that's it. YouTube is kind of for the guys that haven't done

that stuff yet, so they have to kind of like hear somebody else explain it to them, and that's okay, but my point is like a lot of these guys that you know that have girlfriends, this was not their primary focus, it was a secondary benefit, and this is why the advice that they give you is usually not so good, 'cause we've all had a bro that's like, oh, just go talk to her, bro or I met my girl at work, sorry guys, I'm losing my voice here, I'm actually sick, and it's actually true that is what works, but they're blind to all the other factors that lead to this, such as, you know, like we just mentioned, being in an environment with the women. Okay, side note, by the way, imagine if you were all three of the scenarios I just explained: you're a musician with people listening to your music while attending college with 70% women while also working in a restaurant and having a 100 plus friends that are getting together every weekend, and then on top of that, you become charismatic and learn dating.

skills. You would get half the country pregnant, and that's my point with this video. We're going to stack all of these factors so that you have as much working for you as possible. By the way, if this is your first video, I invented sex. And subscribe. Okay, now stop. Slow down. You might be a bit confused right now. Let's go back to what I was talking about before: internal and external. Let's start with external. In order to meet women, you first need to get yourself in front of them. Now, early on in life, we're able to do this without trying because of school. In school, you are forced into a classroom for several hours per day until you are 18 years old. And in this classroom is 50% women. So, you basically are constantly putting yourself in front of women indirectly. Now, the purpose of school is not to date. However, a big part of school is the social aspect. You have to work with others, and this is how you make friends. So, very quickly, you learn how to act and behave around others.

hopefully how to make other people actually enjoy spending time with you. I was a weird kid, but then I learned I can make people laugh, and I was good at drawing and stuff, so that's what made people like me. And looking back, you know, that's all anybody actually wanted to do in high school, just make other people like you. So, this isn't weird, it's just human nature. Okay, now work is similar to school in that the primary focus is to do the main thing, which is like your job, the work part. But as a secondary function, you interact with other people and you socialize. And again, this is how you learn to work with others as well as socialize with them outside of work. Now, this is all fine and normal. However, it actually benefits women more than men. And this is because women are just naturally better at dating and socializing than men. And I'm going to give you three reasons why right now. Number one, women mature faster than men. Most of us are idiots and take much longer for our brains to fully grow.

become attractive. As a rule of thumb, most men do not actually become confident or know who we really are until our late 20s, early 30s. So, up until your late 20s, you're basically, on average, less socially intelligent than the women you're trying to attract, which can be very problematic. This is like a complete amateur trying to fight against a veteran fighter with a bunch of experience. Number two, women are naturally better socializers. Men are much more physical creatures. Like, we're more interested in things, tasks, missions, activities, etc. Women pay a lot more attention to people, social cues, reactions, emotions, feelings, and they spend way more time around others, either in person or texting, than men do. As men, we're much more independent. We like to be alone, and we're very competitive. We butt heads with people. Women are very cohesive. They love to socialize with each other. That's why they don't need videos like this because it's just natural for them. And when you combine these two things together, you can see why women

are so advanced at dating and social skills from a significantly younger age, and it's not anybody's fault. It's just Nature's Way. Now reason number three: men are the pursuers. And by the way, this is the part that every guy always forgets. Right when you think about OnlyFans. Oh my God, women need to stop doing OnlyFans. Well, they would if men stopped paying for it. Oh my God, dating apps are not fair. Well, they would be if men weren't so desperate and thirsty and willing to message a thousand different girls at a time. You see what I mean? It's actually men's fault. Everything is men's fault, but that's a topic I don't think you're ready for. Number three though: men are the pursuers. The part of our brain that thinks about sex and getting sex is 2.5 times larger in the male brain than in the female brain. It is something that we think about constantly. Nature is set up this way for males to pursue the females and the females to select who is

Worthy of time, attention, and eventually dating. So, women basically have the role of being the selector, and that means they can be much more picky. Men have the role of being the pursuer, which means we are much less picky. So basically, men will pursue and date any girl that we find remotely attractive physically, whereas women will be much more thorough and meticulous. Now, I just want to say, don't hate the players, hate the game. This is how it works, so don't ever take rejection or a lack of dating success personally. It's not actually your fault; it's just the way the world works. So, let's break down some external factors. Number one, location. Where do you live? In my socializer program, I work with clients one-on-one to get them dating results in 60 days, and I frequently will have guys join that are making six figures, they're in good physical shape, they're intelligent, but they live in the middle of nowhere. One guy lived in a town of like only 5,000 people. It was

somewhere in Texas, and he was wondering why he couldn't meet anybody. I was like, Wow, I wonder what it is. So right now, if you're watching and you live in a small town or you do not have a car to drive, that is your problem. That is the only thing you should be focusing on. You need to live somewhere with lots of men and women, AKA a city. And yes, cities can be expensive. Why are they expensive? Because they're popular. And that's why everybody goes there. Everybody wants to be there because you're close to everything, including dating options and Social Circles. Okay, as soon as girls graduate college or University, they move to the biggest city possible so that they can be around all their friends and go out and do fun stuff. Same with guys. Everybody goes to the city, right? So right off the bat, if you live in a small town and you don't have a car and you can't even drive to the city, solve that problem before watching any video at all. All right, either move to the city or get

a car and drive to the city. As long as it's less than an hour away, it's totally fine to meet people, maintain friendships, date girls, etc. And it's actually less work than you think. You might be like, Well, I live an hour away, dude. Spend an hour driving there on weekends, spend a couple hours spamming cold approaches, and then drive home. And then do that for a couple weeks till you have enough leads. Set them up, dates, boom, bang, you got a girlfriend. Okay, just solve this problem, all right? Number two is the environment. What environments are you in? For example, when I was in college, I was always in the library, cafeteria, outside socializing with people. This was an environment that was always social. There's always people there, some people are working, going in between classes, whatever. Now I liked this, and after college, I did the same thing. I started going to coffee shops, and I would network with other business owners. I'd sit down at the table where everybody else was, I'd be like, Hey, what are you guys working on? And then I would make

friends, this way I'd also continue going to libraries. I would go to bookstores. I would go to co-working spaces where there were other people like me. And when I would go downtown for lunch, I'd make sure to start conversations with people so that I was constantly around an environment of people that are being social. Okay, that's very important. I would also frequently visit friends who worked at restaurants and bars and get to know them and their co-workers, right, because you become friends with the friends of your friends. So I kept making new friends. I'd hang out with them. We'd have house parties. And then eventually we'd go out to like concerts, bars, festivals, etc. All right. When you have friends to do stuff with, you can go to areas that are great for meeting women. However, if you don't have interests to pursue, AKA places to go and things to do, then you'll never find yourself in these environments. Okay, the next factor is Social Circle. How many friends do you have? And no, I don't mean

the ones that just want to sit in the garage and drink beers on weekends. I mean like how many of your friends are actually doing stuff. I mean, yeah, it's normal for a young guy to spend some time watching videos on YouTube, but are you doing this every day? Listen, Johnny, no more YouTube today. This is the last video, okay? You [__]. You should be hitting up your friends to hang out, signing up for activities and hobbies you're interested in, and making new friends. Because when you have friends, friend groups, places to go to, this creates momentum and opportunities to meet other people. You get invited to birthdays, concerts, or just random hangouts where you will usually be in the city, and yes, around women you can meet. You [__] idiot. So imagine if we stacked all three of these together in your favor, okay? Location, environment, and social CES. Yeah, baby, now we're talking. That's how you get into a relationship super fast. Oh, you [__] make me cough again. For those of you who comment like well

bro, I can't talk to girls in my country. Shut the [__] up, get a high-paying skill, and move. Make some money and leave. I swear, every video I get the same comment from this [__] guy from India. He's like, oh, you can't talk to girls here, where I'm from, then leave bro, get a job and leave. My thumbnail designer is 15 years old, and he's making more money than his parents doing thumbnails. Okay, if your country sucks, leave. All right, now let's get to the internal. One could argue that external is more important because if you are super skilled and charismatic but you never leave your house and you live in the middle of nowhere, then you're basically useless. However, at the end of the day, internal is still more important. Remember this quote: better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. Following this analogy, most modern men are gardeners in war, the dating war. If modern dating was a war, you would be

the equivalent of a dude with a sword and a shield running against a wall of bullets. Okay, double ues, you're not using the proper strategy, techniques, or weapons. So in this part of the video, we're going to go over them. Okay, by the way, if you're new here, subscribe simp. Like 65% of you guys don't subscribe because you're [__]. Let's go over internal. All right, let's start with intelligence. Let's be honest, man, your intelligence is probably pretty average, but clearly, if you've made it this far on the video, you're smarter than you think. All right, so big shout out to you, fist bump. Most guys never have the self-awareness to go on YouTube and look for dating advice. They just listen to their idiot friends or family members, and they live in a bubble their entire life. So you're doing good, bro. Comment down below, Thanks, bro, needed that today. Now, the intelligence you need to improve is your dating intelligence. All right, so I want you to understand dating is like an economy. It is something that involves

market demand. When there's too much demand, things become oversaturated and they no longer work. Like dating apps, for example. Dating is a numbers game. If you approach 10 women, you may only get one date. But if you approach 100, maybe you'll get 10 dates. Of those 10 dates, if five go well, you'll see them again. And then you have two or three girls you're seeing, and you pick one and make her your girlfriend. So the solution to 99% of your problems is just volume. Okay, you need to increase it. Now, the other advantage of increasing volume is you gain experience. Each approach that doesn't go anywhere is actually a win because you learn. It's like sparring in boxing. Yeah, at first you get hit a lot and you don't land much, but then you learn and you start to get better. And each interaction gives you a direct ROI. Okay, next thing is social awareness. If you walked into a bathroom with 10 different urinals and went and stood next to the only other guy peeing there.

that'd be weird, right? Yeah, exactly. I do it 'cause I'm an alpha male. But that's why you try to create space. This is called social awareness, and something like 80% of communication is made without words. So, you need to make sure your body language is on point. And I have an entire course on that in Socializer School. But basically, you need to make sure you physically act appropriately depending on your environment. This means open, relaxed body language. And yes, social awareness. Okay, in a library, don't be loud, but also don't whisper like a [__] in a coffee shop. You don't just skip to the line ahead of others. No, you know better. It's an unconscious social awareness. Okay, what we're going to do, though, is remove the unconscious social awareness where guys don't want to talk to people. Okay, you think there's something wrong with talking to a stranger. Most of the time, there's not. All right, I assume you've figured that out by now in this video, but I'm just saying it for those of you.

in the back, okay, the same thing applies if you're going to a house party, all right. Don't only talk to the girls, talk to everybody there. Talk to the guys and then slowly make your way towards the girls you're attracted to, okay. When approaching women, do not invade their personal space. Now, one of the things that clients love about my Socializer School program is they can watch videos of me do real approaches and see what I do, plus watch me break it down step by step so you can understand. Not just me in the basement here talking about it to a camera, but actual videos of me miked up going out and interacting with women. And in my course, I have hundreds of hours of content, and a lot of it is breaking down interactions like this step by step. So if you're a visual learner and you're like, I've watched a bunch of videos on dating advice and like I understand it, but I need to see it to actually do it, then you should join Socializer because it's really good for visual learners. Next, we're going to

talk about discipline. Many guys struggle with very simple things like waking up early, going to the gym, not playing video games, or scrolling on their phone. And it just so happens that most of the guys who struggle with this also struggle with dating. Wow, who would have thought. Discipline is doing something because it needs to be done regardless of how you feel about it. So if you want to meet girls, you need to take the action steps needed to meet them, such as going out in public, talking to strangers, making new friends, joining classes, and yes, building social circles. But again, the emphasis here is doing it regardless of how you feel about it. So apply this to dating, approaching, AKA leading to dates when you don't want to. That's what life is all about. The next factor is status. Status is super important, and everybody who disagrees has clearly never had status. Okay, I remember being 19 and all the girls my age were dating 27-year-olds, and I was super mad. I was like, What the [ __ ]? Well, this is

because these guys had status. You can get status through different ways, okay: fame, money, experience, skill. But realistically, it is attainable at any age. Okay, so for example, when I was 22, I was going out filming funny YouTube videos, and I quickly got a following in my hometown. Lots of people recognized me, and they wanted to hang out with me whenever I would film. I was like hanging out with people, making friends, so I constantly got to meet new people, go to cool places. And this also gave me a lot of female attention because most of the people that go to clubs are hoes. So all the hoes love me, and I bang a bunch of hoes, and essentially they want to be in the videos, some of them. They would just sleep with me just so, Oh, look who I'm with, you know. And I know it sounds cringe. I'm not flexing here. It's just like, do the math. Why do so many people start YouTube channels? Why do so many guys become musicians or go to clubs?

you're like it's to meet women. Okay, if you get status in a certain field, whether it's music, writing books, if you're a pro athlete, like I know a couple guys that are athletes and they just clean up, right? So this is just status, all right, so your status can be different. It can be that everybody at your job loves you. Your status could be that you organize camping trips or barbecues for your friends. You're the outdoors guy. Your status could be that you write music for fun and you play shows once a month. You make girls [__] soaking wet when you play Wonderwall on the acoustic. You know what I mean? Maybe it could just be that you're really fun. Like, I know that a lot of guys, especially in our early 20s, our status is just that we love to party, you know? Oh man, let's get drunk because women are into that at that age. What I'm saying is work on your status, okay? Find out what you're good at and get better.

at it and let other people know by being around other people. You can be the best musician ever, but if nobody ever hears it, what are you going to do? Do it primarily because you like it, but a secondary benefit will be the dating opportunities. All right, now another internal factor is self-confidence, limiting beliefs, anxiety, whatever you want to call it. You think you're weird, you think you're different, and because of that, you do not think that other people will like you. This could be from childhood trauma like you had a speech impediment, so you never talked to people. This could come from childhood trauma, which is really common for guys. I have one guy I worked with, and he had a speech impediment when he was a kid. So in order to avoid being made fun of, he just wouldn't talk because that way, if he didn't say anything, he didn't say anything stupid. But then as a result of that, like now at 20 years old, he still feels like not talking when he's

with his friends and uh. It's because, you know, he used to have that speech impediment, but he doesn't have a speech impediment anymore. So, we had to kind of like walk through that on a direct one-on-one call, and I kind of helped him through it. But my point is, we all have something that makes us feel anxiety. It could even be general, like maybe you're just a human that's shy and you're introverted, and you don't want people to think you're cringe for talking to girls or whatever. Whatever it is though, this is usually the biggest thing that's holding you back from pursuing anything in life, okay? This is not only the biggest issue in dating, but everything in your life. And I say this as somebody that has worked with thousands of people, right? Like, I help guys one-on-one in my socializer school, but I also recommend you potentially try therapy or even reaching out to some close friends or family members for help, right? Whatever it is you're going through, it's a very

personal issue and it might not be able to be solved just by watching a YouTube video. So you can either like work with me or you can talk to somebody that you trust. There are a few more internal things but this video would be like 10 hours long if we covered all them. Okay, if you struggle with the mindset, the confidence, self-esteem, trauma-related issues, whatever it is, join Socializer. I have a 5-hour course for all of that stuff. Okay, now let's move on to what I believe is the missing piece of the puzzle, and that is being a Socializer. Let's assume you actually took the steps that I said earlier. You're in the city, you're putting yourself in environments around others, you have friends that you're hanging out with, so the external is no longer a problem. You're also working so you have money, you exercise to stay fit, yeah Daddy, you have some hobbies, and you're disciplined enough to go out in public and talk to strangers, so the internal is not a problem anymore.

stop spending 3 hours a day on your phone. So now you have an extra 3 hours per day to work on yourself and meet girls. You have Saturdays and Sundays off, so you can go and spam cold approaches downtown in the city. Perfect. Now there's only one thing missing: the charisma. The missing puzzle piece is the socializing. You need to implement this skill into all of your social interactions. Without having the socializer skill, you're basically a super talented athlete playing the sport for the first time. Even the biggest, dumbest, slow [ __ ] will destroy you because they have more experience. Playing dating is the same way. There are plenty of dudes way less attractive, less funny, less interesting than you, but they are charismatic. They have way better social skills and will always get more results than you do. Okay, you can get yourself in front of the women you're attracted to, say hi, introduce yourself. Then what? Then what do you do? That's what I mean. And if you're at this point, you're already

ahead of 90% of guys. So, like, you're doing good, man. Once you actually do have that conversation, how do you attract the girl? How do you flirt with her? How do you make her agree to go and do something with you? And then hold that tension so that by the time you guys go on a date, you are both excited about it, as opposed to just like a flaky number. How many times have you got a flaky number? It's because you weren't attractive during the interaction, so you just like kind, kind of made her interested, but not really. This is the final piece to the puzzle that a lot of guys aren't able to do. So first, you need to get to the point where you are around women and then talk to them. Then worry about what you actually have to say, okay? Don't buy a car before you know how to drive. Don't build a hot tub in your backyard before you have a house to sleep in, all right, unless you're me and you're crazy. I did put a link in the

description where you can learn how to attract girls via socializing. So click that, go check it out. It's like being able to speak their language or working out a muscle. Right now it takes time, but once you do know how to do it, it's actually easy. And one last thing, I know that nobody else believes in you, but I do. Okay, so go get it done champ. Peace. Guys, I'm so sick, but I recorded it anyway. All right, it looks like I'm cooked, looks like I'm high as. Right now. What's up guys, it's. Denmo just hit a bow to the Dome. God, I'm. Dying out here, but I needed a video up this week.

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