RuPaul's Wisdom: Life, Drag, and Laughter

RuPaul values humor, self-expression, and kindness, and advises not to take life too seriously.

### RuPaul's On the Spot Q&A Highlights
* 🎭 ** Defining Bravery: RuPaul defines bravery as "**the ability to follow your bliss and make no excuses for that**."
* 💡 ** Defining Brilliance:** He defines brilliance as "allowing yourself to be a vessel, a channel, so that the source can work through you, and you align yourself with that source."**
* 💪 ** The Power of Drag: RuPaul describes drag as "**the Superman suit to Clark Kent**," allowing individuals to **expand their self-perception**.
* 🔪 ** The Best Way to Slay:** According to RuPaul, the best way to slay is to "know thyself, be thyself," emphasizing **authenticity**.
* 🔮 ** The First Thing Noticed About Someone: **RuPaul says he notices "their aura"** and can sense **what they're about and what they want**.
* 😂 ** Most Valued Trait: He values a **sense of humor** the most, stating, "**My favorite thing to do in the world is to laugh**."
* 👩‍🏫 ** The Wisest Way to Be an Adult: RuPaul suggests that being an adult involves "**being able to keep your mouth closed**" in certain situations.
* 🤖 ** AI's Key Takeaway: **"I don't like that question."**

Hello, darlings. Now we're going to do a new format here,
which is On the Spot. I'm told it's On the Spot. And I will be answering
a series of questions. So we'll see how this goes, alright? Let's start with our first question. And again, I have 10 minutes. So we'll see, I bet I can do it
faster than 10 minutes. Define bravery. Define bravery. I think bravery is the ability
to follow your bliss and make no excuses for that, alright? Define brilliance. I think allowing yourself
to be a vessel, a channel, so that the source can work through you,
and you align yourself with that source. I think that's brilliance. (Applause) What's the power of drag? Now the power of drag, it's like the Superman suit to Clark Kent. It allows you to expand your idea
of who you are, of what you are.

And it's a very simple
trick, and it works. I recommend everybody try it tonight. (Laughter) What's the best way to slay? Know thyself, be thyself. You are the best version of you,
so you can slay that way. I get a round of applause for that. Thank you, over here. What's the first thing
you notice about someone? I notice their aura. I can see, I can sense
what they're about, what they want. You know, for years, I learned
how to sort of shape-shift myself into what I felt someone needed from me. Listen, not the greatest thing
in the world to do because you leave
a little bit of yourself behind. But it sure did teach me a lot about reading someone's
character, you know, and my own character. Alright. What trait do you most value? A sense of humor, people. A sense of humor.

My favorite thing to do in the world is to laugh. My favorite thing in the world to do is to laugh. And I've done a lot of things. But if you have a sense of humor, yeah, because I think if you have a sense of humor, you get it. This is all an illusion, OK? (Laughter) Don't take any of it too seriously, alright? What's the wisest way to be an adult? Well, to be an adult, you have to be able to keep your mouth closed. Because there's a lot of things you want to say in situations, but an adult knows better. (Laughter) You know, it's true. It's true. You can't say everything to everybody. You really, just, you can't. I wish we could. I wish we could, but we can't. If there's one thing you want AI to keep in mind, what is it?

I don't like that question. (Laughter and applause.) Which of your dreams have not yet come true? I would love to be able to put together a retail storyline that is just as magnificent as Patagonia and Esprit and all the things they've done. I'd love to do that. Maybe there's time. Yeah, oh, hi. (Laughter.) What's the best way to say goodbye? I really don't like saying goodbye. I never have. But I've learned to be in the moment and to actually acknowledge someone and the time that we spent together. I've learned how to to sit in that. I think I was always too sensitive, so I never liked to say goodbye. So the best way to say goodbye is to do it deliberately and to acknowledge that, you know, this could be the last time I ever see you. So, you know, I'm going to acknowledge that and stay in the moment.

Oh, thank you for being on the spot, RuPaul! (Applause and cheers) That's great. That's fantastic. Come on up here. That was going to be 10 minutes, and I have four minutes and 37 seconds left. Helen Walters: You want to chat? RC: You want to? HW: Shall we? RC: Let's do it. HW: OK, who has a question for RuPaul? RC: Oh, I thought you were going to chat with me. Questions from the audience? HW: Why not? RC: Well, I'll tell you why not. (Laughter) I don't think in all the years I've taken questions from the audience, mostly people like to make comments. HW: That's true. RC: And we don't really want comments. HW: No, that's true, that's true. RC: Maybe you and I should come up with a few questions to ask me.

HW: What would you like to tell everyone? 
RC: OK, alright. RuPaul, what is the best piece of advice you've ever gotten? 
HW: That's a good question. 
RC: Thank you. (Laughter) My 10th grade teacher, Mr. Parnell in Atlanta, Georgia. He said, RuPaul, my real name. Do not take life too seriously. The emphasis on too. He actually used some dirty language in there, and you can fill in the blanks where he put it. 
HW: You could also swear on this stage, it's fine. 
RC: No, no, darling, there may be Christian children here, darling. 
HW: There are none, I can guarantee it. (Laughter) 
RC: But no, it was the best advice at the time. I was in 10th grade. You know, I flunked the 10th grade. I repeated the 10th grade,

and then I dropped out in the 11th grade. But of all the time I spent in school, that was the most valuable
lesson I ever learned. And as the years went on, it became more and more valuable. Because ... it's like
we are actors on a stage. And it's as if the actors believe,
say, Twelfth Night, some Shakespeare thing. The actors actually believe they are the characters
they're playing, you know. And drag and laughter
and all those things shake it up to say, Hey, kiddo, you know, you're only playing a role. This show will close. And we're going to go on
to another show and another show and another show,
and it's going to be fabulous. HW: Yes, it sure is. RC: So don't get too invested
in Twelfth Night, darling. HW: So RuPaul? RuPaul is your real name. Why did your mom call you RuPaul?

RC: Well, you know, listen,
I will answer that question. I just want to say, if there are any
people who want to get into show business, do not use your real name. It's my real name because it ends up
on all of your public papers and all that stuff. And you know, you're at the gynecologist
or in the dentist chair and they know all your business, you know. But my mother, my mother saw a psychic
when she was pregnant with me. And the psychic said,
You're going to have a boy, and he's going to be famous. So my mother thought, You know, I'm going to name him
RuPaul Andre Charles, because ain't another
MF in the world with that name. (Laughter) Yeah, my real name. People call me Ru, though. HW: Who is your favorite
person on the planet? RC: My best friend,
who I happen to be married to.

His name is Georges LeBar, and he's so lovely and kind. I think the greatest attribute that humans can have is kindness. That's number one, number two is a fat ass. (Laughter) But and he's got both. He's Australian. He's absolutely lovely. He's lovely. (Laughter) HW: OK, we have 45 seconds, I'm not stopping. What's your favorite thing about television? RC: Oh my gosh, I learned everything I know from television, I love it. I'm watching a show called Murder, She Wrote right now. It's about 45 years old, and I can't get enough of it. I can't get enough of it, I love it. Murder, she sat down and she wrote. (Laughter) Alright, ladies and gentlemen, it has been so much fun. HW: Thank you, Ru. RC: Thank you so much. Give love to somebody.

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Bravery is defined as fearlessly following your passion without excuses.

Brilliance is seen as allowing the inner source to work through you.

The power of drag lies in its ability to expand one's self-perception.

The key to slaying is to know and be yourself, embracing your unique qualities.

The speaker values a sense of humor above all other traits.

Laughter is a key to navigating life's illusions and not taking things too seriously.

Being an adult means knowing when to keep your mouth shut in different situations.

The speaker's unfulfilled dream is to create a retail storyline as impressive as Patagonia and Esprit.

Discussion with RuPaul: Life Advice and 10th Grade

RuPaul shares the best advice he ever received, which was from his 10th grade teacher in Atlanta, Georgia, to not take life too seriously.

He also mentions repeating the 10th grade and the impact of that advice on his life.

RuPaul and Helen Walters discuss the audience's tendency to make comments rather than ask questions during Q&A sessions.

Life Lessons and Show Business with RuPaul

RuPaul emphasizes the valuable lesson of not getting too invested in the roles we play in life.

He advises against using your real name in show business to maintain privacy.

RuPaul reveals that his mother named him based on a psychic's prediction of his future fame and considers his spouse to be his favorite person.

Georges LeBar: A Kind and Lovely Australian

Georges LeBar is known for his kindness, which RuPaul considers the greatest attribute a person can have.

In addition to his personality, LeBar is also known for his physical appearance.

RuPaul expresses admiration for television and shares a love for the show "Murder, She Wrote.