Hello everyone, it's nice to meet you. Today, I think we have a rather interesting topic to discuss. I recently visited the Girls Channel, and I found a rather amusing subject there. What was really funny was that, as you know, many people visit my YouTube channel. This site can be considered the Japanese version of the Women's Era, a place where the most popular girls in Japan gather. It's not exactly a positive vibe, but still, the number one topic there was about Ibasu nuclear sharing and entry review, Asia's version of NATO. I was curious about why women are interested in this Asia version of NATO. It was a bit surprising. However, the second topic that caught my eye was about the cost of living after marriage, specifically regarding sharing expenses. This topic is somewhat unusual because it doesn't just reflect the typical notion of a 50-50 marriage but rather relates to living expenses.

This is a part where my husband works for a large corporation and earns twice as much as I do. However, he suggests that we split the living expenses evenly. I found this interesting and wanted to look into it, so I came across a post that was uploaded on September 30, 204, titled About Half of Living Expenses After Marriage. It mentions that it's about half of what the fiancé contributes. I work at a small company, which has fewer holidays, and I have to go to work on Saturdays and Sundays. In contrast, my fiancé has overtime and holiday work, but since he works for a large corporation, he has various vacation options and can rest well.

The issue arose when we discussed living expenses after marriage. My fiancé mentioned that he would contribute a bit more, but he fundamentally wants to split everything in half. He also suggested that we should share the education expenses for our child equally. We haven't yet discussed household chores and childcare, but for now, I think I will handle the cooking.

He thought that if they divided things evenly, he could accept it. But the problem is that it’s not just about dividing things in half; when they say they want to split everything, questions arise about whether he has to show all the costs related to pregnancy, such as check-up expenses. When going out, does he also need to settle accounts for that? He can save money on his own, but since I can’t save, he wonders what will happen to my finances. He mentioned that Japan also has a half-and-half system when it comes to marriage, but the issue is that it doesn’t work out well. For example, when each person manages their own finances, there are many cases where assets are hidden under someone else's name. This leads to a lack of transparency. Regardless, due to these issues, even though I know we live in an era of gender equality, I wonder if I am just being spoiled. When I talked to my parents about it, they...

I was told not to get married, but they say that most cases involve living with a regular employee like this. The term regular employee comes up a lot here, and in Japan, whether or not you are a regular employee is really important. As for Arasa, it’s an abbreviation for around 30, meaning someone who is around 30 years old. And Arafo means around 40, so I'm currently at the Arafo stage. This usage is quite unique, right? Nowadays, there are many cases where couples manage their finances separately. However, when they do manage separately, among my friends, it’s common for dual-income households to do this. So, how do they handle expenses? Usually, the man pays more, especially for larger expenses like mortgage payments or any significant loans. They might set aside money and save for emergencies when larger expenses arise.

There are things like this, but usually, men pay more. However, the difference in living expenses, especially between men and women, is often more than double. If we say let's split it evenly at 1 million won each, it's different if one person earns 4 million won and pays 1 million won versus someone who earns 2 million won and pays 1 million won. The weight of the contribution is completely different. So, this conversation has come up, and people are considering marriage. The first comment was that maybe you're only earning half of what you could because you're not trying hard enough. The workers all agree, and then there's the idea that if you receive 100 million won for childbirth, you can just claim it and then leave. Well, that could be a possibility. There was also talk about quitting in a somewhat informal manner. There are discussions about pregnancy and childbirth, but there's a conversation about men who only try halfway. Also, someone mentioned that they got married last year but that all the living expenses are...

My husband and I have everything in common. So we both understand each other well, and I think I can manage with a half discount. For men, it seems a bit difficult. Overall, during discussions about marriage, I often hear that we should avoid the idea of splitting everything 50/50. Meanwhile, I feel like both sides are right; we shouldn't aim for an equal marriage, nor should we strive for a hierarchical one. However, if both partners have equal capacity, it might work out fine. For instance, if both are working in large companies and have similar years of experience, there shouldn't be any significant issues. The problem arises from the considerable gap between large and small companies in Japan, which seems to create these kinds of issues. So, generally, the consensus is that it absolutely should not be done.

The story of no was almost mainstream, and there was a notion that if parents opposed it, it was better to just give up. I thought that if one looked for a regular job, they might find a better match. In Japan, the concept of a regular job has a somewhat different image; in our country, a regular job refers to a employment structure that has been influenced by Japan. However, in Japan, it seems like regular employment is quite different. When it comes to marriage, we usually ask about someone's occupation and salary, but in Japan, if someone is not in a regular job, they would say they can't give their daughter away. The idea of regular employment in Japan has that kind of connotation. Even if it's a small or medium-sized company, it's acceptable. But the important issue seems to be whether it is a regular job or not. Amidst all this, there was also talk about not being strongly opposed to it. For example, in the case of a newlywed, they might earn around 150,000 a month.

Living expenses are each 30,000, and the rest is either saved or invested. If there’s any leftover from living expenses, I also save that. Every few months, we disclose our assets, and the two of us manage them separately. This isn’t a bad approach. Occasionally, we review our finances to monitor whether money is being withdrawn or not. So, as long as there is a reasonable balance in our financial capacities, there shouldn’t be any major issues. However, the biggest problem seems to be the significant difference in our financial capacities. This feels somewhat unimaginable in Korea. Even in Korea, while managing finances separately, I notice that typically men earn more. For example, if I earn 500 and you earn 200, and we agree to pay 1 million won each month, this arrangement can be problematic for me.

Isn't it a bit strange? I think so. Japanese women also say not to engage in such marriages. Honestly, if my younger brother were to do something like this, I don't think anyone would support him. It feels like one foot is in and the other is out. So I also wouldn't support this kind of approach. But I also don't know what I would do. There are many strange things in Japan, so I wanted to talk about this. Anyway, today's discussion ends here. In Japan, when it comes to marriage, the atmosphere isn't one where a lot of money is required. However, there are issues regarding living expenses in Japan as well, and when it comes to dating, there are some basic considerations.

I know that gatherings in Japan are somewhat successful, and I am aware of the things that go well there. However, when it comes to marriage, I realize that there can be similar conflicts regarding living expenses, just like we experience. I found this quite interesting, which is why I wanted to share this story. So, that's all for today. If I have more interesting stories in the future, I will share those as well. That's it. Thank you!

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