Hello, this is GIL. Today we'll talk about INFJs
and their relationship with others. This is just an opinion,
so keep that in mind. INFJs are known to be
complicated and complex. We tend to describe them as mysterious. There are some areas
that are hard to understand. I've previously talked about
why people view INFJs that way. But in short, MBTI has 4 letters. Each letter for INFJs conveys their intricate complexity. Introverts are more difficult to
understand than extroverts. They do not express themselves much. That's why they can be
harder to understand. N is more complex than S too. People with N traits have more thoughts. N view S as simple. And S view N as people
that tend to overthink. Let's take a look at F now.
Fs are harder to understand than Ts. Ts are crystal clear.
Just like how one plus one is two. But they cannot do any calculation
regarding sadness and happiness.

They are not as crystal clear as Ts. Finally, it's Js.
Js are typically not more
complex compared to Ps. But when Js try to make decisions, They can be more indecisive.
They have too many options. Js are more like that than Ps. So each letter in INFJ make
them the most complicated people. Other MBTIs are also similar. And they are all related to
letters in INFJ. ENFJ, ISFJ, INTJ and  INFP. These people have at least
three letters of the four. So they tend to be more
complex than other types. If I were to rank them, ENFJ comes fourth, INTJ as third,
and ISFJ and IFNP take joint second. Let's take a look at their relationships. First, it's with ENFJ.
We talked about them in the last video. These people aren't complex
but they are thoughtful. They have a very clean image
so not that characteristic.

They look simply nice and kind, but they are also thoughtful, at least out of all the Es. They tend to form good relationships with INFJs. ENFJs seem similar to ESFJ, but also with INFJs. They are more like INFJ when they are alone or with a small crowd. They are both NFs, so they share similar thoughts. And the J characteristic makes them calm. Both MBTIs remind me of priests. ENFJs are more bright and extroverted, whereas INFJs are quieter and gentler. ENFJs are few of the types that can easily relate to INFJs because they share similar characteristics. Next is with INTJs. I said ENTJs look simple, but they are actually intricate. But INTJs are the opposite. They may seem very complicated, even more than INFJs, but they are in fact quite simple. I mean they don't have anything hidden behind. They mean what they say and what they act.

We simply need to
take it as it is. For example, complicated math problems
tend to seem unapproachable. But once you understand the answers,
you realize there is only one answer, and it's as obvious as that. Someone who sucks at maths will see
a math genius as mysterious, and the mysteriousness behind INTJs
are somewhat like this. INFJs and INTJs are quite similar. They unintentionally tend to
wear masks in relationships, and they see through many things
that people don't notice. But there's a clear difference: T and F. These two may be
great for helping each other, but may find it hard to understand
when making important decisions, which can lead to conflicts. This is like the relationship
between an INFP and an INTP, but I think the relationship between
INFJ and INTJ is more difficult, since they are both Js. They cannot go back on
a decision they've already made.

Let's look at ISFJs. I've previously also mentioned
that ISFJs are complicated beings too. They are type S,
but are very thoughtful. I placed them as second with INFP,
but ISFJ deserves it more. INFPs have more individual differences. ISFJs are difficult to understand
because of their self-contradiction. They have opposing characteristics. They tend to make great bonds with
various kinds of people, yet they have clear dislikes
to know who to stay away from, which may lead to internal conflicts. INFJs and ISFJs are usually good,
because they tend to get along with
other people well without showing, and these people may find each other similar. But once they get to know each other,
there are differences. Firstly, they have different hobbies. ISFJs are very thoughtful and
they tend to revolve around realistic things
and thoughts related to people around them. INFJs have more philosophical thoughts,
such as the meaning of life and goals.

So once they form a deep bond,
they may find it hard to converse. But they won't have serious issues. As long as the ISFJ thinks of
the person as a friend, and the INFJ accepts the
good side of the other person, there won't be a big problem
in the relationship. Finally, it's INFP. Like I've said, all INFPs are different,
just subjectively speaking. INFPs look pure and innocent, like the Little Prince,
but this doesn't necessarily mean good. Other people may find
the pureness a little weird. There are some INFPs like that,
but from their perspective, there's nothing wrong with them. I think the Dutch genius artist,
Vincent Van Gogh, might have been an INFP,
but he may be different to
the normal image of INFP. He's more serious and calm. Some think that he's INFJ,
but I disagree. He was a very free soul,
and he hated the system.

He never planned to be a painter too. Back in his 20s,
he was well off selling paintings. He would've been successful
if he continued down the road. And back in the days,
they made quite the money. But he quits the job due to
personal and external reasons. It's like being hired to a big company,
but quitting because he doesn't like it. He decides to become a priest
later in his life. And once that didn't work out,
he started painting as a hobby. Those who've researched
Gogh's life know that he was an extremely innocent
man back in the early days. And he created his own view of art
during his career as a paint seller. When a customer asked about a painting,
he would directly talk about the errors. Imagine a salesman doing that. He was fired because he was being
too direct with his own products. It went similar when he tried to be
a priest at a coal mine.

Coal mines were known to have extremely poor environment in Europe. Gogh was shocked at their misery and committed himself to helping them by joining. But the missionary was shocked at it and they decided to sent him off. He got fired for looking like one of them. They thought priests needed to have some sort of dignity. He was not a foolish man but rather an intellect. He had problems grasping the reality and other parts of his life. But he was a genius of art, literature, and philosophy. He had an INTP side of him when he was a child. He was more of a scientist as he loved collecting and classifying insects. He was also linguistically gifted and was fluent in English and French, and read and wrote fantastically well. His letters to his brother Theo are regarded as great pieces of literature. I've talked a whole lot of Gogh but what I'm trying to say is INFPs tend to have someone special like that out of the blue.

Some are peaceful and gentle. I think he's an INFP, but
I understand why some see him as an INFJ. INFPs and INFJs are similar and different. INFJs look at the bad and
the evil that is within. They look at what's inside them. Gogh had a profound experience of
giving himself up to God. That is why he suffered
through at the coal mine. But he was never accepted
by the priests and the missionary. And he ends up denying
the God they believe it. That God of the clergymen,
He is for me as dead as a doornail. But am I an atheist for all that?
The clergymen consider me as such — be it so. But I love, and
how could I feel love if I did not live? And if others did not live, and then, if we live, There is something marvelous in that. Now call that God,
or human nature, or whatever you like,

But there is something which I cannot define systematically, Though it is very much alive and very real,
and see, that is God, or as good as God. I think this is an extremely
interesting quote from Gogh. I think through his suffering of life,
he's realized the essence of God. But to priests, his father, and most people
back in the days, he was just a crazy man. Nobody understood him,
and then came the loneliness. There are differences, but
INFJs and INFPs are
somewhat familiar with this loneliness. That's why they are
easily attracted to each other. They prefer staying alone, so
things may create some conflicts. But it is still not a bad chemistry. I'll talk about the opposing sides of INFJ
by talking about Jesus and Hitler
and explaining the relationships with others. Please like and subscribe, and feel free to leave any questions below.
Thank you~

INFJ (인프제)가 난해한 성격 1위인 이유 (ft. ISFJ, INFP, INTJ, ENFJ) (eng)

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