Most people are afraid to fully be themselves. They’re afraid to embrace the parts of themselves
that might be regarded as unacceptable, because embracing these unacceptable parts makes them
feel uncomfortable. So to escape this uncomfortableness, they
divide themselves into two halves: conscious and unconscious. In the conscious-half, they construct an ideal
image of themselves: an image formed out of the bits and pieces of their past that they
deem as good and acceptable. And as result, in the unconscious-half, they
repress the parts of themselves that they view as bad and unacceptable. In Jungian psychology, this repressed part
of the personality is called The Shadow. And unless The Shadow is integrated into the
personality, a person can never reach their fullest potential. Instead, one will always remain incomplete,
fractured, and partial—living a life of regret rather than the full life that could
have been. Imagine, for example, that I’ve solved a
few equations and convinced myself that I’m

a great mathematician. I might meet a few friends, and they tell me
that they have a math club. They gather every weekend and try to have
a crack at math’s most difficult problems. This scares me because if I join, I’ll
no longer get to be the ‘great mathematician’ that I’ve convinced myself I am. Instead, I’ll be a concrete person with
actual strengths and weaknesses. And in this scenario, there are two possible
actions I can take. The first action is to run from my shadow
and let it grow. I refuse to join the math club and realize
my own weaknesses as a mathematician. I get to cling to the ideal image of myself
as a great mathematician, but as a result, I lose the opportunity to actually become
one. The second action is to come into contact
with my shadow and integrate it. I join the math club and realize that I’m
not the great mathematician that I thought

I was in the short term, this hurts. I discover that I’m not very good at geometry, but also that I excel in differential equations. I become measured with my colleagues. I have an actual place and rank among other mathematicians. In reality, I realize I’m not the great mathematician I thought I was, but now I open up the possibility of actually becoming one. I can actually improve my skills and rank. In the long run, this ends up being the best decision I’ve ever made. See, in a way, we often prefer to be pure potential. We convince ourselves we /could be/ whatever we wanna be, but don’t actively work to /actually/ be something. We just comfort ourselves with the idea that we could be something if we wanted to. This is because when we work towards something, we start feeling our weight in the world. We’re measured and ranked. We’re quantified and actual.

And this actual reality is often less pleasurable
to live in than our ideal fantasy. But it’s real, not a fantasy. And reality can be improved, but a life of
fantasy always ends in tragedy. The path to self-improvement starts with self-acceptance. Only by embracing and integrating our shadow,
by accepting the ugly parts of ourselves, by becoming who we’re afraid to be, can
we reach our fullest potential. But if we reject our shadow, if we pick and
choose the parts of our past, personality, and behaviour that we like and repress the
parts of ourselves we fear, we become incomplete and partial. And instead of living a full, whole life,
we live one full of regrets. But it’s up to you to decide: in Jungian
terms, will you embrace your shadow or reject it? Would you rather fail in actuality or succeed
in mere hypotheticals?

Become Who You're Afraid To Be | The Philosophy of Carl Jung

Become Who You're Afraid To Be | The Philosophy of Carl Jung

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